What Goes Around Comes Around
You know what the saying says: what goes around, comes around. Everything you do, say, think will come back to you, severalfold. Or if you like: everyone gets what they deserve.
We Are Energy
Now the thing is that we give out energy. We are energy and we give out energy whatever we do. You have certainly noticed that you feel good in the company of some people while you simply get shivers whenever a person who you may not even know enters the room. That's the energy I am talking about. Just like any other creatures, we feel the vibrations of other human beings in their presence. We say that happiness is contagious, like if someone is happy and smiling you can't help but suddenly get in a better mood yourself (if you don't try to suppress it). It's true vice versa as well, if you are spending time with a depressed and sad person, you will probably end up in a bad mood after a while. Or at least won't feel as good anymore.
Choose Your Attitude
That's why it is vitally important that you do not let others make you feel sad. As Jack Canfield says: "You thought the thoughts, you created the feelings, you made the choice, you said the words, and that's why you are where you are now." That is, others may do and say whatever they want but it is always you who decide how and what to answer. If someone is being obnoxious or mean to you, or you think they are, don't ever take it personally. Don't ever think of a revenge, either. Probably the only one getting upset will be you... And then it's not worth it. Think up a cool answer and just walk away. Or just be happy with the thought that you are not like him/her.
Revenge Is Bad
Although often we make the mistake of thinking about a revenge or yelling right back at the annoying one. But the wonderful thing about life is that every problem gets solved sooner or later. Just let the Universe do things its way. Lay back and think of that that person is probably getting back from life what he or she just created. Usually you don't get to see or hear about this but life guarantees that this is how it is. And sometimes you don't even have to wait long until you can actually make sure that everything is just perfect. I am sure that you have at least once heard that the person who was always bullying you had had something unfortunate (note that I do not support gloating over others' misfortune) to him or got into an awkward situation. That's why it is much better to accept the situation and not to get bothered - it is for your sake. Not to mention that if you plan to get a revenge, you are going to emit negative vibrations and just end up angry. And this is not what you wish for yourself.?
It Is Worth It
An example I can come up with happened to me quite recently. I was at a fast food restaurant and in a hurry. I had spent the whole day at school and I was freezing, tired, hungry and really had to catch my bus to get home as fast as possible, as the course I am taking is an intensive one and we are having classes from early in the morning to late in the evening for several days in a row. It was a Sunday and buses were quite rare that time and I really didn't feel like waiting another 30 minutes or so for the next bus. There were a lot of people in the restaurant but they weren't lining up, which was bad as it was hard to tell who were waiting for their food or to order. I had been standing there for quite a while when a woman appeared and stood behind me. Then next to me. Then somehow she ended up standing before me. I had a suitcase and a huge bag with me so it wasn't easy to move with those stuff. And as you've surely figured: she got to order before me. The cashier who finally served me even took an order from another guest before I could finally say what I wanted. It was annoying, really, really annoying, everything seemed to go slowly and I was afraid that I would miss the next bus.
But then I stopped and thought: alright, it's no use being angry now. It won't help this situation anyway. And that stupid woman will get what she deserves (okay, it was not a serious situation but it was still an-noy-ing!) later on. Too bad I won't get to see it but...oh well.
Now guess what. I didn't have to wait long (for the meal either!). I got my food quite fast, and looked at the woman : she seemed quite stressed, and was still standing there waiting. I sat down. She made a phone call. I took my first bite of my hamburger. She was turning around, apparently feeling restless. I finished the meal. She was still standing there! I wiped my mouth, stood up... and left. I caught my bus, even had to wait 2-3 minutes...and went home happy.
It is not that hard, is it?
Written by Andi 02 March 2010
*Photo by Emiliano Spada
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