Why You Should Be Happy for the Negative Things In Your Life
Sounds weird, doesn't it? You came here to read articles about positive thinking and how to live a happy life and here I am telling you that negative things are actually good. Although I'm sure you have had others telling you whenever something bad happens: "Try looking at the bright side of it!"
Well, what I'm going to tell you is more or less the philosophy of this kind of thinking.
There Is Always Another Level of Understanding
You see, without change there is no progress in life. Every single change, whether it is good or bad has some kind of meaning on a deeper level. It may seem like you had nothing to do with how things turned out, but truth is that on a level it was you who attracted it, or asked for it. Right, asked for it, your thoughts you tried to suppress, your feelings and your desires asked for it.
So when you find yourself in an awkward situation and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are an unlucky person who never succeeds anyway. Every failure opens the door to new possibilities. Every break-up can lead to new relationships of a higher quality. Every jobloss can lead to a position at a company you would never have dared to dream of. A loss of a beloved person makes you wiser. A disease discovered at an early stage can force you to live a healthier lifestyle. An accident may transform your life and lead you to spirituality. You can never know.
I'm Happy My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me
Two years ago my boyfriend I had that time broke up with me and all of a sudden I had nowhere to go. There I was, without a place to stay at, no money, no job, nothing but me, myself and I, in a foreign country which I didn't intend to leave. I thought the whole world was going under. I was disappointed and a blamed myself for things having to turn out this way. But while scared to death, I still had something very important: I had myself.
Today I'm happy it turned out that way. Because it let me reach my goals: although it took a while, I found a job, made a living on my own, was independent financially for the first time and could rent my very first apartment. On top of that, I had one energy vampire* less to drain me out.
I'm Happy I Lost My Best Friend
This was a tough one. It took me about a year and a half to recover from it. My best friend and I moved to the very same country, approximately at the same time 4 years ago. After a while I realized she didn't care so much about me anymore, and according to her I had hurt her feelings as well. We tried to talk about it and be friends again which seemed to work for a short time. Then she got pregnant and completely turned away from me. Of course I was sad as we used to get along very well, had the same taste in music and shared anything and everything with each other. I simply missed her and didn't have any other friend who could take her place and fill the emptiness. I felt hurt because I didn't really understand why she was behaving like that. It took several dreams and one long EFT session with my coach for me to comprehend that it had to happen that way and our lives simply went in two different directions. I was told that if I didn't let her go, I wouldn't ever have a place for a new friend in my heart.
Now I am grateful she is not my friend anymore and after letting her go, new, interesting and nice people appeared in my life. What is more, we seem to have a lot in common. And my friend's place seems to be taken as well.
I'm Happy I Became Ill
A good few years ago (must have been around 2005 or 2006) I was diagnosed with a systemic yeast infection and it pretty much changed my life. It affected my social life as I couldn't go out with my friends and have a beer with them, as I wasn't allowed to drink alcohol or anything but water or herbal tea. Since I couldn't eat anything that contained sugar, yeast, flour or carbohydrates, I missed tasty family dinners and had a hard time explaining everybody that I was actually not on a diet in order to lose weight. (I have always been the skinny type, now imagine all the worried parents and relatives watching me lose weight.) I was told I would never be able to have a normal diet again but one with a bunch of restrictions. This went on for 1,5 - 2 years.
Anyway, I decided to win the fight against the disease and so I did. I gathered hundreds of pages of information on a healthy life and so it led me to start eating healthy, listen to my body and change my thoughts. That was around that time I began to be curious about spirituality in general and in fact I'm reaping the benefits from it today.
Learn From What You Experience
You see, you'll never know what life has in store for you when it seems to be the meanest. All you have to do is accept that life isn't always about laughter and cupcakes. But it doesn't mean that life sucks. Accept every negative thing and stop to think for a while. Embrace the negativity. And see if you can find new opportunities derivating from it. And trust the Universe - it always knows what's best for you.
"Turn your wounds into wisdom" - Oprah Winfrey
Written by Andi October 14, 2010
*an energy vampire is someone who lets you down and drains you out with their constant complaining, being sad and depressed and there is no way to help them.
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